Shame is one of the most disturbing and uncomfortable of all human emotions. The very hallmark of Self-leadership is the willingness and ability to self-disclose without the fear of inner shaming. If shame and self-loathing permeate an inner system being vulnerable becomes difficult and leaves people stuck in protective cycles of blame, hopelessness and despair.
Requirement: Have completed a Level 1 in IFS
Healing shame involves:
- Acknowledging parts that have been shamed and parts who have the role of shaming
- Doing depth work to bring shaming protectors in to the light and unburdening exiles
- Bringing self-compassion to one’s inner system
- Safely self-disclose one’s experience and story without shaming oneself or others
This workshop will address:
- A working definition of shame
- Shame as a verb (action)
- The difference between shame and guilt
- How and why working with shame protectors is critical when working with a shame driven system
- Shame-driven system
- How IFS works effectively with the inner and outer shame cycle
- The purpose of revenge
- Healing shame
- How Self-forgiveness, self-compassion and safe self-disclosure are an antidote to shame.
- Saying hello to parts of the therapist when faced with extreme shame in clients.
- How avoiding shame in the therapy office causes more harm than good.
- Understand shame and the Autonomic nervous system.
- Shame in relationship
- Experiential exercises to understand shame from the inside out.